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Clear Intentions and Blogging 101

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Top [Loft, similar here] Skinnies [Loft] Sunnies [Ray Ban] Sandals [Kelsi Dagger] Bag [Rebecca Minkoff] Watch [Kate Spade] Bracelet [J.Crew Factory] Necklaces [Stella & Dot]

Happy Monday and welcome back! I’ve been a real-life blogger for an entire week now. Yup, a whole 168 hours. This obviously earns me some form of merit after riding the emotional rollercoaster I’ve been strapped into this past week.  I thought I’d let you in on a little behind-the-scenes info of what goes on in the first seven days (because remember, I have expertise now and not because my entire closet was strewn across my bedroom floor as I packed all week and had no style post to prepare.) Let me tell you, blogging is no joke. It makes a spinal tap look like a walk in the park. (Just kidding, leave it to that test to make a grown adult cry and beg for their mother…as I heard from my friend.) Should you decide to take on this venture for yourself, here’s what you can expect.

Day one. The big day is here. You’ve already had multiple meltdowns figured out the basics of creating your site and it looks as good as it’s going to get at this point because let’s face it, you’re no website developer and the thought of HTML coding is almost laughable. Thankfully, you’re already past the near-heart attack you had when you thought your entire entry was deleted because you have zero little idea how to work WordPress or your MacBook, if we’re being honest. Your stomach is in knots because you’re about to publish the first post. You’re nervous about sharing your personal story because at this point, only close family and friends know the real-deal. However, you’re excited at the same time because you’re throwing it all into the wind. (Kind of like that time in third grade when you walked into class after spontaneously chopping your long, pretty hair into a chin-length bob cut at the advice of a friend and watched all of your classmates stunned reactions…nervous and excited.) You’re hesitant about the judgment you may receive but at the same time, realize you’re (cringe) 29 and don’t actually care.

Well, here goes nothing! ‘I Came in like a Wrecking Ball’ is blasting from the iHome and…you hit ‘Publish’. You did it! And then it dawns on you; no one is even going to see this long-awaited blog post because no one knows you have a blog! The anticipation builds up all over again as you draft your instagram pic, clicking the ‘facebook’ share icon so that your story can be sent out into the blogosphere– to old high school acquaintances, college friends that can no-longer be considered friends, that girl you became besties with when you were drunk on line for the bathroom at the bar your sophomore year of college and you haven’t spoken a word to since, ya know…whoever is willing to read it. You post that picture with butterflies in your stomach and then, you wait. And wait. Finally, the wait is over and you’re thankfully greeted by a ton of positive feedback, encouragement, and support. You did it and you can do this. You can be a blogger. All of that settles in for the next two days and then your mom someone asks, “So, what are you going to write about next?” HO-LY $#@!. You have to post something else! Duh.

Naturally, the remainder of the next four days is spent racking your brain for ideas as you imagine yourself as Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City, sitting at her vintage desk overlooking Greenwich, stylishly perservering through writer’s block. You start critiquing your first post, even doubting yourself a tad, and brainstorming a little bit more. Did your message come across correctly? Were you too open? Are you going to disappoint your followers if some of the content is more surface-level than others? You try to figure out how to be yourself but relatable as well. (What? You mean everyone isn’t a medical enigma with a penchant for home décor and fashion? Weird.) Simultaneously with launching your blog, you’re also trying to start-up social media so you start analyzing your instagram followers. It grows by 5 followers, you follow 5 back, and then you lose 3. What the heck is going on? (Don’t even get me started on the trickery mind-games tactics bloggers use to grow their following. All I can say is #RUDE.)

Common sense eventually kicks in, as it usually does at 3 a.m. when you’re way overdue on sleep and watching The Other Woman (fav movie!) It dawns on you that you’re becoming way too pre-occupied thinking about something that’s supposed to be fun, an outlet from an already seemingly high-stress situation that is your current reality. You are not going to be the blogger/insta mean girl who follows up-and-coming bloggers only to unfollow them once they follow you back. (All those ladies, you’re dead to me.) You accept the fact that you no longer have the prowess for social media like you did when you were mastering the Facebook game in 2005 because again, you’re 29 (sigh) and you can’t figure out how to use Snapchat if your life depended on it. You’re also okay knowing that you don’t yet have the $600 beginner DSLR camera that all of the other bloggers have because, well…priorities, and your iPhone 6 pics are grainier than a bag of rice. It’s not that serious. It’s all going to work out.

Day seven. Reality check– “you’re” is actually “me” so pick your jaw up off the floor and let me shoot it straight being we’re all friends here, right? I have no idea what I’m doing. I’m not a ‘writer’. My grammar is probably off, I frequently occasionally add too many commas, and my mom thought the strikethroughs in the body of my first post were left over notes from a draft copy (sorry, Mom, that’s my attempt at being witty. #fail) I don’t have a super fancy camera yet, I’m not exactly sure what my ‘voice’ is going to be, and often enough, I will have a topic that, to some, may seem like a superficial post about cosmetics, a current sale, or a gallery of outfits from the past the week. (More on my reasoning for that content here.) I don’t feel good a majority of the time so even though I plan to post at least once a week, real life is still occurring and I may not always be able to adhere to that schedule. I wear what I have in my closet and what I feel good in; I’m not Song of Style so I don’t have an outfit comprised of the newest Topshop collection that I can conveniently link below my picture for you to head to Nordstrom and purchase. I definitely look super narcissistic when Eddie is trying to take pictures of me on the park bench below our building, with all of the people who paid an overpriced rate of $79 a person in the Sur La Table cooking class staring at me, getting way more of a show than they paid for (so awkward). But, that’s my life and this is my blog.

My posts will likely not be 1,302 words and counting all the time and I’ll occasionally write whatever comes to mind (hello, current rambling.) I will try my best to be as relatable as possible but it is even more important that I stay true to who I am and my current situation. After all, that was the inspiration for this blog! I started Classic & Gray with the intention of this being a life and style blog and that’s what I still intend it to be– bits of life and style; fashion, home décor, recipes, DIY projects, and anything else that makes me happy. Now that we’ve gotten all of that squared away, I hope that you continue to stick with me as I navigate through this new venture (okay, so I’m not an expert), even though some of the post topics may not be your cup of tea. It seems that I’ve made it through the first seven days of blogging and I’m looking forward to many more, emotional rollercoaster rides and all. Thank you so much for following along!

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27 Comments

  • Reply
    Jenny (tedi..hehe)
    August 17, 2015 at 7:03 pm

    Michele,
    LOVE your blog and everything you’re doing with it…even rambling, and I’m definitely someone that will appreciate posts about cosmetics, sales, outfit posts (which by the way, you’re absolutely making me want to shop at Loft..never have before!). I give you so much credit for putting everything out there and creating a blog..I’ve always thought about blogging but it requires SO much work, so every little detail you put into it, I appreciate :).

    Don’t ever overthink anything you post, anything that comes from the heart will be wonderful! It’s so easy for someone to criticize you when they are behind a computer. Keep doin’ what your doin’…it’s a breath of fresh air!

    • Reply
      classicandgray
      August 17, 2015 at 7:25 pm

      Thank you so much, Jenny! That made me tear up a little! I really appreciate your feedback and acknowledgement of how much work it is! I will be sure to post a bunch of girly stuff we all know and love and you NEED to wonder into Loft one day…I promise you’ll thank me later! You should absolutely try your hand at blogging! It is a ton a of work but it’s really fun and is a great outlet. I think you’d be really great at it and would love to follow along 🙂 Thanks again for the sweet uplifting words and I really appreciate your support. Hope all is well out in AZ! xo

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    Brianna
    August 17, 2015 at 7:34 pm

    Seems to me you’ve already got this whole blogging down to a tee! Can’t wait to read your next post!

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    Toby
    August 17, 2015 at 8:06 pm

    Michele what can i say! you have nailed this blogging thing and even made me laugh out loud mids reading about “Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City, sitting at her vintage desk overlooking Greenwich, stylishly perservering through writer’s block ” Yes, i too always refer my life to hers and you are not the only one who has no clue what they are doing. We all don’t, trust me:) We just somehow make it look good, like you do and laugh out our own silly frustrations. And do not get me started on those hot big shots bloggers, they are just here to tease you and get your #imawesome feeling kicking in. With all that rambling said i love your blog and would love for you to come check out mine at http://www.poshandspicy.com xx

    • Reply
      classicandgray
      August 18, 2015 at 5:49 pm

      Thank you so much, Toby! I really appreciate you taking the time to comment and for being so encouraging! I’m happy you enjoyed my post and if only we all could be Carrie 🙂 I’m following Posh and Spicy and I look forward to reading your posts in the future!

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        Toby
        August 18, 2015 at 7:49 pm

        Ha! thank you:) i am here for you anytime xx

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    Cathy Aiello Martin
    August 17, 2015 at 9:13 pm

    I like everything about your blog! Don’t change. It’s funny, honest and real. I look forward to the next one -whenever. This is Michele’s World..no deadlines or worries:-)

    • Reply
      classicandgray
      August 18, 2015 at 5:50 pm

      Thank you very much, Cathy 🙂 I appreciate your support, always! xo

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    kponxy
    August 17, 2015 at 10:09 pm

    I love your blog and pictures. Looking forward to reading your next post!

    • Reply
      classicandgray
      August 18, 2015 at 5:52 pm

      Thank you so much! I’m working on the better-quality pictures part 🙂 Looking forward to following you as well!

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    klaudiarr
    August 18, 2015 at 4:35 am

    Love the way you write and I started a couple of months ago but still feel like a newbie! Followed you (and won’t be unfollowing) and looking forward to seeing your posts 🙂 I would love it if you checked out my lifestyle/fashion/whatever blog at http://www.shoesstylesmile.wordpress.com xx

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      classicandgray
      August 18, 2015 at 5:54 pm

      Thank you so much! I really appreciate your sweet comment 🙂 I’m looking forward to following you as well and you can be sure that I won’t unfollow either! haha!

      • Reply
        klaudiarr
        August 18, 2015 at 5:56 pm

        Aw no problem lovely 🙂 And ha ha thank you! It didn’t happen to me until literally today or maybe I just didn’t notice? But I also saw someone who posted a new blogpost which was copied from another blog, word for word :/

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        classicandgray
        August 18, 2015 at 6:05 pm

        That’s terrible! Ugh I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone stealing an entry that someone else worked really hard on. Being I’m literally brand spankin new to this, do you mind me asking how you found my blog? I have no idea how to work the tags and categories but is that how you found me? I’d love to search for other lifestyle blogs to show support but don’t know how! WordPress-1, Michele- 0.

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    Ed
    August 18, 2015 at 7:19 am

    Absolutely amazing. I couldn’t be more proud of you. I love you.

  • Reply
    Amanda
    August 18, 2015 at 9:20 am

    I need those sandals AND im obsessed with both of those necklaces!!!!

    • Reply
      classicandgray
      August 18, 2015 at 5:57 pm

      Thanks Amanda 🙂 I wish the sandals were still available but I linked them in case someone wanted to search for them! You should definitely get the necklaces, I layer them with different things all the time! Thanks for taking the time to comment xoxo

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    Tohfa
    August 18, 2015 at 12:17 pm

    Michele, this is awesome! I read this on my commute and was chuckling the whole way! I’m loving this opportunity to get to know you better and have always been envious of your style so can’t wait to learn tips and places to shop! And do whatever you want with this blog, remember it’s for you, not anyone else. Can’t wait to see how it evolves 🙂

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      classicandgray
      August 18, 2015 at 6:01 pm

      Thank you very much, Tohfa! I’m glad it made your commute a little more bearable 🙂 I’m looking forward to having you follow along and will be sure to post some good style stuff 😉 I appreciate your support and thank you for taking the time to comment! Hope to see you soon after I get back home! xox

  • Reply
    Laura
    August 21, 2015 at 10:39 am

    Love you and love this blog. You have impeccable style and I will be tuning in to see more of it, no fancy camera necessary! 🙂

    • Reply
      classicandgray
      August 24, 2015 at 6:07 pm

      Thanks, Laura!! You’re too sweet. So happy to have you follow along and can’t wait to celebrate when I get back home! Love you! xo

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    Asa
    September 25, 2015 at 8:21 pm

    Fun post! Welcome to the blogosphere.

    I’m obsessed with this classic chic outfit. I might have to recreate this look. I have that same purse too. I love all of your accesories and your cute bun.

    http://laceandpearlsblog.com

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      classicandgray
      September 25, 2015 at 8:58 pm

      Thank you! My husband hates my bun (so does my Dad…I think it’s a male thing) but I’m going to keep rocking it! Isn’t it the best bag! My mom bought it for me on a whim when we were passing through the N sale and I’m so happy I got it! It’s goes with everything, as you know!

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    Ela (@WunderBliss)
    October 13, 2015 at 9:52 pm

    Tricky mind games it is! Wow, I’m so glad that you wrote this because honestly I was thinking about sharing my experience as well about this. It’s those people who just follow a bunch of accounts just to get your follow and then the next day or a couple days later unfollow you. It’s even more funny when they do that a few times not realizing that they had already followed and unfollowed you couple times before. These people just annoy me. Blogging is hard work and I didn’t know that before I started. I thought well how hard is it to just post a few photos. But it’s so much more than that. You want quality content and you want to build a community with like minded people. I seriously don ‘t know what I’m doing half the time and just having fun with it! I seriously love how honest you are! So glad to have connected with you. We’re going to get along just great:-). Ur photos are beautiful and I love your blog. Keep up the amazing work xoxo

    http://www.wunderbliss.blogspot.ca

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      classicandgray
      October 14, 2015 at 4:57 pm

      I knew you’d understand, Ela! Go ahead and write about it! It’ll make you feel better☺️ So happy to have connected with you as well! You’re as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside xox

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